Good communication is at the heart of every successful relationship. But what does good communication mean? It’s not something we are taught at school and sometimes we need a helping hand and some good tools to help us nurture the communication in our relationship. Here are some great tips from ‘Relate’ to help you get started:
Set aside time to talk when you will not be interrupted. Take it in turns to have air time - some people find setting a timer for five minutes, one speaking while the other listens, then reversing the process, can create a space for each to talk without interruption.
Tell your partner how you felt, feel or will be feeling about something without blaming them. This can be tricky but it is a very useful way of owning your feelings.
Plan to go together somewhere that provides an environment you both find relaxing e.g. a walk in the park, a drink at a pub or a coffee when you're shopping, etc.
Remember that communication isn't all verbal. Consider what your body language communicates to your partner about what you're both saying.
Don't be surprised if there isn't an improvement straight away - you wouldn't expect to dance the salsa after only one attempt would you?